Hi, I’m Lauren!
People tell me I look young for my age. It’s always fun to see the reaction on people’s faces when I tell them I have four kids, the oldest being twelve.
But enough about my genetically inherited baby face. Allow me to get serious for a minute…
I’ve tried for a very long time to figure out what I want to contribute to the world (something other than birthing my kids).
Always wanting to leave a positive mark, I’ve attempted things that I felt would be a way I could help others. All the while, in the back of my mind, I dreamt of writing.
I never felt confident enough to call myself a writer because I’ve never been paid for my work (not to mention it wasn’t my chosen major or profession in college). Writing is so easy for me and I tried to complicate things by coming up with all sort of reasons not to just write.
But, alas, here I am, writing to you, in this guest post for Stay-in-Bed Mom Blog.
For a long time, I tried to fit a square peg into a round hole – that round hole being society’s view of what a female with kids should do. In doing so, I resisted my calling.
I’ve been fortunate enough to stay home with all my kids.
But each time my kids would reach that eighteen-month-old mark, I would get the itch to get out of the house. But finding the right job for me was tough. First, nobody cared that I majored in finance, so I only landed jobs that had nothing to do with my degree. Second, having a bachelors degree and certificate in financial planning overqualified me for entry level bank positions. I thought going to college was supposed to help me find a job? Of course, graduating a year after the recession began probably didn’t help.
Sometimes, I could only find part-time work, making only enough to pay for daycare. I only took those positions because I hoped it would one day lead to a full-time position. Other times, I found daycare but didn’t find work, so I ended up spending money on childcare for me to stay home and look for work. Eventually, I decided that I wasn’t meant to work outside the home during this phase of life.
Today, I’m a stay-at-home mom with a little lifestyle blog, Life Spark with Lauren, where I write about my twelve-years of experience raising kids and all the stress, anxiety and overwhelm that goes along with. My mission with my blog is to educate other stay-at-home moms on the importance of self-care and to give them hope and motivation to see them through their hot mess moments. I hope that what I share will inspire them to make positive changes, changes that can help them to embrace the difficulties of motherhood.
Because, honestly, there was a time when I was a hot mess. Like, a hot, hot mess.
And it wasn’t because I was going crazy over the whole not finding a job thing.
At first, I only blogged about overcoming mental health-related issues, like the depression I experienced back in 2016, but I’ve since expanded to also write about general health, nutrition, family life, and money (trying to put that degree to use).
Later this week, thanks to the generosity of Stay-in-Bed Mom Blog, I’ll be sharing with you some of the coping mechanisms I’ve developed for raising my kids without my husband. The line of work he’s in takes him to construction projects all over the US. Over the years, I’ve had to come to terms with this and accept that we will have to spend some time apart.
While I don’t want to be insensitive and I recognize that my life isn’t the same as the life of a single parent or a military spouse (thank you for your service), parenting alone is a similarity we do share and I hope my post brings hope to moms who are struggling to make it through their solo parenting phase.
But before I end this introduction, let me throw in a few more things about myself so I don’t feel like a total stranger:
- My birthday was last weekend, so I’m a Taurus (aka bossy and stubborn AF).
- Music is where I turn to flip my sour moods upside down. Sometimes singing in the shower makes me cry and I feel SOOO much better afterward.
- Even though I’m open with my words, I’m closed off in person (introvert) – unless I’ve known you a long time. Then, I don’t hold back.
I always love hearing from other stay-at-home moms, so feel free to leave a comment below and introduce yourself! Or, if you prefer, you can DM me on Instagram (it’s where I go to hide from the kids).
Lauren is a thirty-something-year-old stay-at-home mom blogger at LifeSparkWithLauren.com. When she’s not writing, she’s busy managing a household that often appears to be taken over by her four beautiful kids. In true introvert form, she savors her alone time on her yoga mat or curled up in bed with her Kindle. She loves eating Panera Bread and drinking iced coffee from Starbucks. She’s a regular Target shopper and buys organic as often as she can. Sleeping is her weakness – AND double chocolate chip cookies. You can follow her on Instagram @lifesparkwithlauren.