As parents, we’re prepared for stepping in food, bodily fluids, toys, etc., but a heap of “the baby blues”?!? A pile of postpartum depression (PPD)?!? “It’s all good?” No, “it’s not all good.”
Have you met Pete the Cat yet? If not, it’s only a matter of time.
Pete is a groovy sneakers-wearing cat from the smash children’s book series. I don’t know about you, but I’m jealous of this carefree cat who manages to squeak through life, “walking along and singing his song”.
But all jealousy and joking aside, I love the moral of the series’ first story, Pete the Cat: I Love My White Shoes. Protagonist Pete has a brand-new pair of white shoes that get dirty and wet as he trudges through town.
The theme of Pete’s story [and our story as parents] is: “No matter what you step in [even if it’s “the baby blues” or PPD], keep walking along and singing your song . . . ”
We do what we have to do. We always do.
Do I have “the baby blues” or perhaps something more?
What are the symptoms?
The “baby blues” are marked by mild ups and downs, weepiness, and stress. The key word to focus on here is “mild”.
PPD, on the other hand, involves moderate or severe ups and downs, crying spells, and stress.
When does it occur?
The “baby blues” can happen anywhere from a few days to two weeks post delivery.
In contrast, PPD usually develops within the first few weeks of giving birth or as late as 12 months after delivery. Sometimes PPD can happen during pregnancy.
How long does it last?
The “baby blues” goes away within two weeks of delivery.
As for PPD, if your “blues” don’t disappear two weeks after delivery, or the feelings intensify, you may have PPD or another perinatal mood disorder.
Do I have PPD?
A great first step is to take a screening test. Share the results with a healthcare provider.
Many moms, even dads too, experience the “baby blues”. Completely normal.
Some moms and dads struggle with postpartum depression (PPD). Also completely normal.
With time and/or treatment though, whatever you’re going through will be “…all good.”
You thought your brand-new mommy/daddy shoes would stay white. Don’t be discouraged though. Like Pete, your sullied shoes will get white again. But if not, some staining and wear and tear will remind you how far you’ve walked in your parenting shoes.
A Final Thought – From the Pillow
If it’s not all good, “it’s all good.”
So before you know it, you’ll be back “walking along and singing your song.”
But if not, what can you do to get walking and singing again?
What’s your view from the bed today, bleak or bright? What’s your song?