The mommy wars continue…Thanks for joining in on the discussion.
In the previous post, we talked about the spats between stay-at-home moms (SAHMs) and working moms. The crux of the argument seems to be who has it harder or worse?
I’ve seen it too often: an unhappy woman suddenly attack an unsuspecting woman in a hush of fury and vitriol.
It’s not uncommon to hear SAHMs hurl horrible accusations at working moms such as:
- They must not love their children.
- They’re selfish.
- They aren’t mentally strong enough to take care of their kids all day.
- They just aren’t that good of parents.
Let’s face it. Adulting is hard. Parenting, if treated like an “occupation” (and I think it should be), is even harder. For working moms (and dads too), they have two “jobs”!
Why Being a Working Parent Is Difficult (the not-so-obvious reasons)
- You aren’t excused from all of your motherly duties.
- You may love your job, but it’s still work.
- Your job is what you do, not who you are.
- You have to deal with the dreaded morning meltdowns: “Mommy, don’t leave me!”
- You may never be the class mom.
- Your house sometimes looks like a train wreck.
- You may like your job more than being at home with the kids. (And that should be okay!)
- You miss your kids’ firsts.
- You really, really miss your kids.
- Also you really, really, really miss your kids.
The above applies to working dads.
A Final Thought – From the Pillow
Working moms and stay-at-home moms are equally important.
So stop judging and start empathizing.
Have you ever been a victim of a girl-on-girl crime? What about a perpetrator? Why?