I’d like to think there are as many parenting styles or “mom types” out there as coffee drinks. You need a “red eye” to get through the Wikipedia “List of coffee drinks” article.
According to a study of 1,000 coffee drinkers, people who drink certain types of coffee share common traits. What if your coffee order revealed your parenting style? Which “mom type” would be printed on your coffee cup? Helicopter, free-range, “hot mess”, “cool ‘bleep it’ mom”, or “crunchy” mom?
Clinical psychologist Dr. Ramani Durvasula looked at common personality styles and psychological traits like introversion and extroversion; patience; perfectionism; warmth; vigilance; sensitivity; and social boldness, including others. While the research findings were interesting, Dr. Durvasula said, “we are no more defined by our coffee orders than we are by our astrological signs.”
Here are the Durvasula coffee study findings, with my own parenting twist on it. This is just for fun. Don’t let your coffee order define you or be the final word on who you are as a parent!
If You’re a Black Coffee Drinker…
- You prefer to keep things simple, e.g. parenting.
- You value minimalism at home.
- You’re a “purist”, perhaps having traditional ideas of how to parent.
- You’re patient with your children and partner.
- You’re “set in your ways” and resistant to making changes to your parenting style.
- You’re quiet and moody at times.
If You’re a Latte Drinker (Or If You Add Milk to Your Coffee)…
- You go out of your way to help others (e.g. other parents, other people’s kids, etc.).
- You’re generous with your time.
- You like to be at home with your children (e.g. stay-in-bed mom, me!).
- You tend to overextend yourself (e.g. whoa, too many play dates).
- You’re a people pleaser and put your own needs last.
If You’re a Cappuccino Drinker/Decaffeinated Coffee Drinker/Soy Milk Drinker/Really Specific Coffee Orderer…
- You’re a perfectionist.
- You enjoy being in control (e.g. Lead parent? No problem!)
- You’re a perfectionist. (Notice how this trait is listed as a positive and negative?)
- You’re more likely to be obsessive and controlling.
- You’re scrupulous about monitoring your and your children’s health.
- You over focus on the rules.
- You over worry and are overly sensitive about people’s criticisms of you as a parent or your children.
- Sometimes you can be high maintenance.
If You’re a Frappuccino Drinker (Or If You Order Sweet, Frozen and/or Blended Drinks)…
- You enjoy trying new things with your children (e.g. recipes, activities, parenting styles or approaches, etc.)
- You’re a trendsetting parent.
- You’re socially bold.
- You can be reckless, tending to act now and think later.
- You look for trends and easy fixes for your parenting problems.
If You’re an Instant Coffee Drinker…..
- You’re the most laidback of parents.
- You’re a poor planner.
- You’re more likely to put things off through procrastination (e.g. cooking, doing laundry, cleaning the house, signing up for activities, etc.).
Do any of these descriptions sound like you?
Maybe you identify with one coffee drinker category. Perhaps you fit under a couple.
How do you like your coffee?
The cited study puts me in the latte drinker group. I like my coffee with milk – a splash of cream, a little something to color the coffee and soften its severity. It’s my preference to sweeten my cup with half and half or cream, if I’m feeling decadent. But I tend to use whole vitamin D milk, or whatever’s in the refrigerator (and unexpired). I like my milk with coffee.
Have your coffee preferences changed over time?
Mine have. In my twenties, I liked my coffee black as night. Now in my thirties, I need some clouds in the sky. Who knows what I’ll be drinking in the decades to come. But I’m sure it’ll be decaf after noon and instant when I’m too tired and poor to grind my own beans. I hope my adulting/mothering skills, like my coffee preferences, continue to change (evolve) over time.
But how will non-coffee drinkers know what kind of parent they are?
I say if you don’t need caffeine to parent, you’re a supermom/superdad.
A Final Thought – From the Pillow
There’s coffee for a season, a reason, and a lifetime.
So enjoy your coffee [insert drink of choice] however you like it and know you’re a great mom or dad.
Which coffee drinker are you? Do the personality styles and psychological traits accurately describe you as a person, as a parent?