As a stay-at-home mom (SAHM), I feel pressure to be the perfect mom and homemaker. My husband doesn’t pressure me. My in-laws don’t pressure me. My parents don’t even pressure me. Nor do my “mom friends” (well, maybe just a little – more on that later). I pressure myself. In doing so, I make a huge mistake. If motherhood is so hard to get wrong, why do so many moms and dads worry about “getting it right”?
With all the pressure to “get it right”, it’s no wonder moms everywhere need to take a “bed break”. Not everyone has the opportunity to actually get in bed. If you can’t get your body in bed, get your mind and soul in bed – even if it’s only for a few precious moments. Watch a TV show or movie, read a book, sip an espresso, nurse a glass of wine, paint a picture, get a manicure, take a nap, volunteer, sign up for a yoga or spin class, [insert activity of choice]. You deserve it.
The purpose of my blog is to help moms/dads/caregivers, like me, de-stress. We shouldn’t shirk our “mom” duties. That’s not at all what I’m saying. But I’m commending the kind of mom who takes a break and “phones it in” from time to time. Let’s give ourselves permission to “stay in bed”, literally and figuratively. When we take time for ourselves, we can be better moms to our children. Ignore the guilt-trippers who will tell you otherwise.
A Final Thought – From the Pillow
A happy SIBM/dad/caregiver equals a happy baby.
So grab your bed beer (or wine). Hold up your glass. May I propose a toast? Here’s to us, to loving ourselves a little more. Please join me in staying in bed.
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